MY FIVE STEPS TO A FRESH START
This first step is what I deem as the simplest step.
Get rid of anything and everything that hurts
you reminds you and taunts you about what was.
From photos to clothes and the blocking of contacts. In my opinion I
felt it best to give what no longer serves me to charity, if it isn’t in good
enough condition to either tear and burn,
or simply toss away in the trash while
smiling and waving.
Create new surroundings. This could mean
revamping your room, a fresh coat of paint, new bed, new furniture, new everything,
but of course within your means. I personally enjoyed my new wardrobe, which I slowly
built with a new memory attached to each ensemble.
Simple ways to change your environment would be to rearrange your room,
be it your cupboard, your bed.
You can also choose to add new life into your
space by for example:
hanging up or displaying new photos of new moments and memories with
loved ones;
lighting your favorite scented candle; buying or making your own diffuser, making an inspiration board to help you focus on tomorrows rather than your
yesterdays
Focus on what brings you joy.
Remember those
hobbies which kept you busy for hours on end, why not get in touch and submerge
yourself in all things which once made you smile silly.
Ride your bike or learn how to, try your hand
at a painting just for the fun of it, read your favorite book or watch that one
movie that never fails to humor you.
Sometimes with a purpose, you find your joy. You can get busy and give back
by perhaps joining your local community by volunteering at the library, animal
shelter or children’s home, or help any other organization which is dear to
your heart.
Get out there and give your love and care to those who will actually appreciate
and savor it.
Write it out, work it out or cut it out.
When I say write it out I refer to what I like
to call a burn journal.
No this is not the burn book that is featured in the movie Mean Girls.
A Burn Journal will require you to write out anything and everything even the most trivial of events that either harmed you, angered you or disturbed your peace until you
can’t write or think of anything more. Once you are ready and
have nothing more to pour into your Burn journal – you guessed it burn or tear
and throw away the journal one page at a time.
Work it out, is putting in the effort to focus on your physical self.
Eating well on a daily basis with a cheat day now and then. Taking care of
yourself by going to the gym if you can or planning and following an exercise
routine at home.
If it’s a conversation, name,
event or place which deflates your happy thoughts or shifts you into a moment
you rather not revisit – CUT IT OUT of your life.
Have an open discussion with
those near and dear and tell those who may unconsciously bring up the delicate
topics to give you time and allow you to breathe free from what polluted you
and to give you the space you need to get through this.
Time truly is your best
friend. Its time which will tenderly bring you to a place where you will be
content with your life and state of mind, time will give you your much deserved
peace.
Self-care every day. Yes, self- care is Not selfish. Just dedicate a few minutes of your day to yourself.
This is the time to eliminate your stressors. It is fairly simple to practice self-care.
Your options vary from physical care like running a bath, maybe making your very own face mist to get you through an exhausting day, making use of bath bombs and body scrubs, or mental care like engaging in leisure reading, sitting down with just yourself and sipping on a cup of tea or coffee or whatever it is you fancy, while you watch the gentle sunset, or chatting to a confidant at the end of the day when things get too wobbly to hold on to.
It’s all about taking time out to replenish yourself while you regenerate the blissful vibe which was drained from you.
I hope you tread carefully on your journey to happiness and to remember this
is only the preamble to your new beginning.
Hold onto yourself when the night
steals your shadow and remind yourself especially in those dark moments that
you are now out of the fire, merely dusting off the debris of your past before
you run off into your next chapter of contagious laughter and freedom to be
yourself.
You have done beautifully thus far, don’t give up now!
XOXO
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